- 1 1) Break the best friend stereotype.
- 2 2) Don’t pretend to be her boyfriend.
- 3 3) Show her that other women want you.
- 4 4) Be mysterious
- 5 5) Ask her to go on a date with you.
- 6 6) Don’t be too vocal.
- 7 7) Ditch her every now and then, deliberately.
- 8 8) Make her value you.
- 9 9) Don’t be her girl BFF.
- 10 10) Stop trying to please her all the time.
- 11 11) Don’t miss out on the flirting bit.
- 12 12) Demand clarity from her on where your relationship is heading towards.
1) Break the best friend stereotype.
The guys that find themselves in the friend zone are there because they’ve adopted the best friend role. Once this happens it can be tough to share your true feelings with your love interest, especially if you’re worried that it will make her feel pressured or ruin the friendship.
2) Don’t pretend to be her boyfriend.
When men and women are close friends it can be hard to define the line between friendship and romance. No matter how tempted you may be to take on the role of her “pretend” or “temporary” boyfriend — don’t. Allowing her to treat you as her boyfriend when you’re not means that she gets the perks of being in a relationship with you, and the perks of being single.
To find out where you stand, back off for a while and see how she reacts.
3) Show her that other women want you.
Make her believe you have more options, even if you really don’t. Girls tend to get attracted more towards men who have a lot of ladies swooning over them. Make it look like she has a bigger chance of losing you than you of losing her.
4) Be mysterious
The major foundation of attraction is mystery. When a man is mysterious, it triggers a woman’s curiosity, which will make you a challenge to unveil. In turn, she’ll be forced to think about you, and she’ll want to know more about you and the things you do. She may even develop a certain kind of interest or fantasy towards you.
Add a sense of mystery to your personality and she’ll be dying to get you out of the friend zone.
5) Ask her to go on a date with you.
Stop trying to please her all the time. Be yourself. You don’t always need to go to a restaurant she likes. Once in a while, take her where you want to go. Don’t let your identity go for a toss. Let her see you as her ‘boyfriend’, not just a best friend. Show her scope of being more than a friend to her. Take her out on dates; flirt with her the right way and she’ll come back looking at you in a different light.
6) Don’t be too vocal.
Don’t be too vocal about your feelings towards her. Resist the urge to tell her how much you love her. Save it for special occasions. The more often you say directly, the less seriously she takes you.
7) Ditch her every now and then, deliberately.
Have her know you won’t always be there for her. Stop being available all the time. Make her value you, she knows the importance of having you around.
8) Make her value you.
You need to stop behaving like a doormat. Let her value your presence .She should feeling like something is missing when you are not around. She might consider you a good friend but on a serious note, no girl wants to date a pushover. Don’t be too submissive in front of her.
9) Don’t be her girl BFF.
There are certain things you should never discuss with her about her personal life – the guys she’s crushing on, her exes and her long distance boyfriend who keeps coming into the picture every other month. Avoid these BFF things.
10) Stop trying to please her all the time.
Every now and then, make plans without her. It’ll make her feel neglected and she’ll realize how much she wants to be with you.
11) Don’t miss out on the flirting bit.
There needs to be some sexual tension between you two for her to get attracted towards you. Show her you know how to woo women, the right way. Surprise her one random day by taking on a completely different personality. Surprise her. Make her laugh and forget your every stress. If she’s comfortable around you, catching her off guard will work wonders in igniting that spark between you too. Caress her cheek casually, hold her by the waist tight, look into her eyes deeply. There are a lot of flirtatious gestures that’ll have her know you’re really into her.
12) Demand clarity from her on where your relationship is heading towards.
If she seeks comfort in you after fighting with her boyfriend and ends up ignoring you the moment they get back together, you need to steer clear of her. It may hurt to end contact with her but it’s definitely better than landing up in the friendzone. Your relationship would be easier. She needs to know you’re not stupid.